Secrets of healthy relationships

There are 2 large columns on which the long-standing relationship is concerned:

1-Being compatible with the personality traits of the individual when starting the relationship,
2-how individuals support or hinder their partners during the relationship.

First, let's talk about personality traits.

First of all let me talk about the theory (see five major factor theories)

According to this theory of psychology there are 5 main personality dimensions that can be scored as low or high in humans. These are:

Openness - openness or tradition to new and extraordinary ideas, stance against different experiences, creativity.

Conscientiousness - self-discipline, emphasis on fulfilling responsibilities, diligence, planning, readiness, regularity.

Extraversion - inward or outward turn. Enjoying communicating with people, working with people, searching for energy outsourced or internal sources, a deep and small experience or a shallow and more experience ...

Agreeableness - the ability to believe in people, empathy and sympathy, courtesy, compassion, selfishness, skepticism,

Emotional balance (neuroticism) - having high or low tolerance towards the strase, impatience, anxiety, evil, indifference, comfort, steel.

For example, if you think low on the compatibility scale, you tend to trust people automatically when you are high on skepticism, lack of empathy, impudence, disregard of your mind, selfishness, etc., and you have tendencies like truism, compassion, kindness.

If two individuals targeting a long-term relationship are standing on the same scale at many opposite points, for example if one is introverted but the other is extrovert, these personality traits will cause friction.

Introverts tired very quickly from crowded environments where extraterrestrials enjoy. Think about going to the restaurant with a 2-year-old child - after 30 minutes or so, whatever you do to the child will be relieved by your will and calmness will start unhappiness. There is a similar situation in adult people. Will be tired more quickly if he is forced to do something that is not natural personality (like spending a long time in an isolated environment for extroverts).


It is necessary for the relationship to flow smoothly.

Or a man with a high score in responsibility and a woman with a low score will cause the rubbing that will cause the man to find his wife to be scattered and dowdy and find the woman to be too meticulous and the mind to be too meticulous.

I give these extremes for the sake of understanding - by the way, people are not so black and white, of course.

Nobody is always always and always compassionate, and nobody is always selfish or meticulous or neither sharp nor skeptical. These are characteristics that can vary with age, with breeding, with traumas or with conscious effort.

In summary, if  are basically very different people, your relationship is hard to walk for a long time.
Be aware of these characteristics of the person you are together with, preventing the tragedy of your accumulated unhappiness in the forward ward from causing great trauma.

In summary, try and evaluate your objectively.

Let's come to the second big milk.

Supportive or disruptive actions in relations.

People are not much different from rats or dogs when they actually learn something.

Let me tell you how they tricked mice into clinical trials.

Let's say you want to get a feed by pushing a collar after you have climbed 4-5 steps of stairs.

You can not teach it by putting the mouse and hand there and leaning on the hand.

What to do - wait for patience when the mouse wanders unconsciously and give him a prize for the first step of the mouse ladder.
To repeat it until you learn to put your hand at the first step.

Then the first step is not the press but the second step is to give the prize money.
Then 3, then 4.

Then wait again to wait for the accidental foot to rest on the bait.

Teaching the number of dogs is a similar process. step by step. With small steps and awards. Take your patisserie to your hand and give it to me. Then you do not get your hand, and you expect the cost to be yours, you give a reward when you give it.

The individuals who come from ignoring the bad efforts and who do not get the bad reaction but are rewarded with good efforts will continue to do the desired behavior in order to get that award over and over again.

The relationship of those who do not break down that support their partners in this way will be healthy.

The relations that hold these two main pillars are long and happy.